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Life lessons I learned from a quilt

Roya Dedeaux

Me again, with another Life Lesson I Learned From A Quilt.​​​​​​​​

This is a type of quilting called Cathedral Windows. You start with a piece of fabric (in this case, about 10" square) then basically do some fancy fabric origami, iron it a bunch, and it ends up being a quarter of the size. You take two of those and stitch them together, then get a 2" square of another color fabric to sew in, creating these windows. It's intense, beautiful, and incredibly time consuming. This one is growing pretty quickly and I'm really happy with it! Mostly because....​​​​​​​​

it's the fifth time I've tried to make one of these.​​​​​​​​

If you go through my Graveyard of Buried Projects (aka my office closet) you'll find the evidence of four other cathedral windows quilts. They're wonky. There's a reason I gave up on those ​​​​​​​​

But here I am again. "This time it will be different!" I whispered to myself in the fabric aisle of Joann's.​​​​​​​​

And you know what? It is!​​​​​​​​

Here's what has been different so far: ​​​​​​​​

I've learned a LOT from those other four attempts. I know I need the right tools (like a THIMBLE. Sewing through like five layers of fabric at a time is owch). I know I need to be in the frame of mind to be precise, because the folds lining up matters. I know it's worth it to take out mistakes and try again, even if it takes more time right now. I'm older. I'm more patient. I have gone through my own personal development so that I'm ready to take on this project again.​​​​​​​​

So....it's never just about quilting. ​​​​​​​​

Y'all. When your kids aren't developmentally ready for something, let it go. And let them try again. And again. Those attempts before weren't wasted. They were part of THIS successful process.​​​​​​​​

 

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Roya Dedeaux LMFT

Roya Dedeaux is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a focus on using creative tools like art, writing, and recreation as a way to help teens and their families who don't quite fit the mold.


Roya’s first book, Connect with Courage: practical ways to release fear and find joy in the places your kids take you is the result of her background in Recreation and Leisure Studies and Marriage and Family Therapy and is the base of her Connect with Courage Parenting Course


She loves running her private practice, creating art prompts for her
two online art groups, and running games and challenges in the free Recreate Parenting Facebook community! When she's not doing that, she loves to make messes with her three wild & wonderful kids where they live and play hard in Southern California.

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